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Limiting Beliefs

This is the centre piece, the foundation to everything in my journey. This is what helped me understand everything that comes afterwards.

Limiting beliefs comes from the different things that happen in your life. A lot of limiting beliefs develop in childhood when you aren’t always able to process what happens to you.

Limiting

Limiting Beliefs are the WHY behind how you react to scenarios. As an example, for myself, I would feel easily attacked in certain situations, like people were readily throwing me under the bus and I would lash out pretty damn quickly. It took me time, but I finally understood that while looking at my past, I was passed off from family to family, babysitter, foster homes etc.. I had a limiting belief of, ‘I am unwanted’.

So when people or scenarios made me feel unwanted, I got upset. 

Now, I recognize that business is business, it has nothing to do with not wanting me. I understand my strengths better and have built boundaries to not let scenarios like that catch me off guard.

Empowering

Since everything in this world has an opposite, so do limiting beliefs. In come Empowering Beliefs.

These are also the WHY behind how you react to scenarios, but the positive ways. Here’s another example from myself. 

My Father was an alcoholic, it’s how he dealt with discomfort and vulnerability, not the greatest problem solving skill to be certain. However, because of this, I would use a myriad of ways to try and convince him to quit drinking. From talking, yelling, being stern, action (crying, running away), and eventually, I started writing to him. 

I recognized that he had several ‘characters’ or moods, and I would speak to them each differently to varying degrees of success. This helped me understand communication really well (social cues, perspective, speaking, and writing).

So, despite the very real and shitty experience of growing up with an alcoholic Father, I gained the empowering belief of communication.

What I Learned

If you Google limiting beliefs you’ll get a varied list of them, but truth is, there’s no definitive list, it comes down to the following statements:

  • I do/ don’t
  • I can’t
  • I must/ I mustn’t
  • I am/ I am not
  • Others are/ will

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